But she refused. A situation that has a great deal of sensitivity should be tackled in a tactful manner. It is without doubt in my mind that whoever was responsible ( namely the birth father ) for putting my wife's name on the internet should have gone through it in a more dignified manner and shown consideration and tact to the other parties involved on both sides instead of the ignorance that was displayed, showing total disregard to others feelings.

If the other party cannot be traced then no ways can one have the right to put the name on the internet. That is a breach of a person's privacy.

To cut a long story short, my wife's daughter has been traced and in time they will meet. I sincerely hope for her sake that it is a success. As for me, possibly over time I can learn to accept her but at the moment it is proving very difficult. We as humans are all different ( thank God ) and react to different situations differently. Sometimes positive, sometimes negative, but I think I have the intelligence and reasoning to realize the need for a mother to trace her child or vice versa.

To conclude. a situation of this nature must be handled carefully and sensitively when the respective parties have moved on and married with families.