Her excuse: "You're not my parents. You can't make me". We have spoken to child counsellors, read books - oh, we've followed every path and we know it is quite normal. But the pain of rejection makes me want to curl up and die. I have tried telling her, but she just walks away, or stares at me blankly.

Robin of Harare, Zimbabwe replies:
I gave a baby up for adoption years ago and then went on to foster three children who are now 17, 14 and 9. I also have a daughter of my own who is 6 and a stepson by marriage who is 19. I am constantly being reminded that I am not their "real mother" or (from the youngest) that I am only her mother and therefore she is the most special. Very trying!!! God is backing my efforts and this is where I draw my only strength.

Home Page / Why? / Search Tips
Search Experiences / The Law and You / Route Maps and Detours