Share your Experiences

It's lonely being part of the adoption triad. You can't talk openly about your feelings for fear of hurting those closest to you. Maybe it's a secret which has been buried deep for various reasons.

But there comes a time when everyone has to let off steam, have a shoulder to cry on,
or just realise they are not alone.

This page is designed to do just that.

Links to specific triad pages will reveal more clues about this quest. Adoptees / Adoptive parents / Birth Mothers/Fathers / Grandparents - the forgotten side of the triad / General Comments Submitted by Reg Palterman "I sympathise with these people (aparents) as well and understand their anxieties in these things (the fear of losing their child to his/her bmother) I too would be most scared of losing a loved one. However I believe that if you have truly loved and sacrificed to that love, then you need not fear anything, for you will never lose the bonds made in genuine love. "If you really love something or someone you must set it free... if it loves you then it will return". It is selfish love and possessiveness that lacks sacrifice that causes and makes people cling, for fear of losing, mainly because they know in what they are doing, not releasing, allowing a genuine freedom, so in that way they are failing. I know it is easy to discuss and not so easy to live through, but if you consider your own feelings before you consider the others then you are not a very worthy person anyway." Zimbabwe authorities - don't give up! Submitted by Margi Simmons Searching in Zambia Submitted by Margi Simmons I found both my bparents! Submitted by Bev, South Africa I found both my bparents but I've lost my child! Submitted by Gina, Harare, Zimbabwe Searching in Zambia (Part 2 - Margi finds her bmother) Submitted by Margi, UK Extracts from letters sent to a bmother from the Director of Social Welfare in Zimbabwe provide clues to the laws and processes in that country. Read them by clicking here I was taken from my Birth Mother Submitted by Terry Child Welfare can help you find your baby. Submitted by Linda, South Africa How your website helped me find my birth mother's family Submitted by Kate, England You CAN obtain your adoption records! Submitted by Rebecca, England Meeting my Son Submitted by Sue, Pretoria Thankyou to my daughter's adoptive parents Submitted by M, South Africa Useful Information for Adoptees Submitted by Kevin, South Africa A birthmother's experience in St Claire's Home for Unmarried Mothers. Submitted by Anon, USA Words of Encouragement to Adoptive Parents Submitted by an AMother. Help from the Registrar of Adoptions Submitted by Adoptee ID 799, South Africa God's Boxes. Submitted by Peppa, South Africa