Similar to your story I gave up my child for adoption in April 1974. I much later married his
father and we have 3 wonderful children. My dearest wish is to get hold of my son and let him
know he has brothers and a sister, and of course to meet him myself and to know he had wonderful
adoptive parents. My children do not know anything about him. I never thought there was a need to
tell them although I alwas hoped to meet him. My husband and I have recently started a search for
him, as I think his name is down in the search for his parent in this list. We contacted Bulawayo
and got a very cold shouler response. I was at St. Claires at the time although, I saw welfare
in Salisbury before I went there.
I have no idea whether he was adopted in Salisbury or Bulawayo, or anywhere else for that matter.
Like you to this day I look at people and wonder if they look anything like my missing son.
He needs to know he was not a not wanted person. I was young so was his father at the time and of
course about to do his national service. My parent were not in a fincial position to help bring
him up either.
Please help advise how to get around the red tape. Do you think counselling is going to be a good
move? For us the parents and for the children who know nothing about this to date.
Thanks
ANON
(WEB AUTHOR's NOTE: These birthparents have been reunited with their son. It took months of repeated letters and phone calls to the Social Welfare in Bulawayo before the necessary information was given to the adoptee. Moral of the story? NEVER GIVE UP!)
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